Psychotherapy and Counselling in Uxbridge | Hillingdon

 01895 467046 07943 802589

Anger

This natural emotion is essential to help us defend ourselves and supply energy to channel into doing something constructive, which in turn builds our self-esteem. However, when we find ourselves out of control with our anger and at its mercy, we use it destructively, intimidating others and ourselves with it, which leads to loss of self-esteem.

Anger work includes an enjoyably practical approach where we measure incremental changes in being able to contain its destructive power and utilise it in positive and constructive ways. We get to understand and appreciate ourselves, and some people get a taste for this type of enquiry and stay on to do some deeper therapy work.

Anxiety and/or Depression

A medical model sees anxiety and depression as illnesses which simply need to be got rid of, an approach which does not always result in the change and growth necessary to achieve a contented life. Whilst medication can be useful to alleviate the worst of your symptoms, in therapy we ask: what messages are your symptoms sending to you about your life? What changes do you want/need to make? We use the symptoms as a motivating force to begin a process of enquiry and forward movement, leading to an increased mastery of yourself and your emotions and a gradual clearing of the way ahead to achieve the life you want to live.

Addictions

(Substance and Behavioural)

Addictions run deep into the personality and life history of the person and the road of recovery is challenging but the good news here is that addicts in recovery often develop a depth of understanding and awareness that enable them to create lives which are more than averagely rewarding and fulfilling. In addition to one to one therapy some people benefit from the identification and support provided by a 12-Step Fellowship (like Alcoholics Anonymous or Gamblers Anonymous) – however, this is not the case for everyone and 12-Step Fellowships do not yet exist for every type of addiction.

Many consider that certain behaviours such as gambling, spending, work, sex and even the variety of different self-harm syndromes, follow a similar course to that of substance addictions.

Money

Although a necessary commodity for us to live the way we want, money and what it can buy too often takes on a dominating significance in people’s lives. However, not only is constantly striving and strategising to create more money often ineffective, it can also lead to tension and further unhappiness. My experience as a therapist is that when therapy reduces personal, inner conflict, you relax and find yourself spontaneously making different decisions which often result in your total financial picture changing for the better. For many people therapy turns out to be a financial investment with a very good return.



Stress

We cannot get rid of all stress but we can steadily improve at distinguishing between those stressors which are helpful calls to action from within and which help us to reach our potential, develop a skill or make necessary changes in our life; and those which cause us to take on more than our share of burdens and worries and reduce our ability to cope well. Therapy works at turning around the complex set of habits which underlie unwanted stress, replacing these with the ability to maintain good balance.

Life Crises, Existential Questioning, Spiritual Issues

As human beings we automatically seek safety from danger, security in our relationships, a sense of belonging to a community and a set of personal values. But in a life time these securities come under threat – sometimes severely. On a personal level this could be through an event such as illness or loss of someone through death, or the multiple losses which result when a relationship or family breaks up; it may also occur at different stages of life, such as no longer being needed as an active parent, being made redundant or becoming acutely aware we are no longer young and can see old-age approaching. On a wider level, global or ecological issues can threaten our sense of safety and values leaving us feeling angry, defeated, and broken- hearted. We may question the very purpose and meaning of life.
Although such crises seem to contain nothing good, they are in fact a doorway and invitation to your own personal awakening. Therapy can help you to step through the doorway and foster this awakening so that you come to see the crucial role you as an individual play in the mysterious fullness of life. You discover an ability to live with contradiction and find authenticity, peace and fullness. This can be thought of as your own personal “spirituality”, regardless of whether you are an atheist or feel more comfortable within a religious tradition.

Counselling and Therapy Uxbridge | Hillingdon

Contact me in confidence for a no-obligation discussion to find out how therapy could help you.

Email david@davidnewns.co.uk

Telephone 01895 467046   Mobile 07943 802589